Six Ways To Make A First Date The Best Date

First dates get a bad rap. In all fairness, they can definitely be awkward. Here are some tips for making your first date a great one.

1. Go out to eat. This seems obvious, but a lot of people avoid it because of the conversation required. If you just go to a movie, though, you won't have the chance to really get to know a person. Choose a restaurant (such as O J'S Steak & Pizza) that isn't too loud but that has relatively quick service. You don't want to be trapped if the date goes sour.

2. Leave your phone at home. Do not pull it out unless there is an absolute emergency. You want your date to feel like they are important to you. 

3. Make eye contact. Frequently. While you don't want to stare at your partner all night, look into their eyes from time to time. You can tell a lot about a person just by looking in their eyes, and they can tell a lot about you. Be confident in who you are and what you are saying. It is a very attractive trait. 

4. Think of some good questions to ask. This sounds silly, but it is good to be prepared. What are some good open-ended questions? Talking about the weather or your favorite movies gets boring fast. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • What is your earliest childhood memory? 
  • What are your goals? Where do you see yourself in five years?
  • Do you have any holiday traditions?
  • What is your favorite thing about your job/college?
  • What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  • What is your favorite memory?
  • What is your dream vacation? What is the best trip you have already taken?
  • What did you like about where you were raised?
  • Who are your best friends?

Now, don't just shoot these questions at your date like bullets from a pellet gun. This isn't a job interview or an inquisition.Take your time and really listen to the answers. Ask only the ones you care about the most and give your date the opportunity to ask you questions, too. First dates are great for getting to know each other so some questioning is expected. 

5. Relax. You don't have to be the perfect date. If you say something silly or draw a blank, laugh at yourself. You will never know if you and this other person "click" if you act like someone you aren't. Make the best of the date and have a good time. 

6. Follow up. If you have a good time, say so at the end of the date. You don't want to leave the other person hanging. Remember that one date is not always a good indicator of compatibility so setting up a second date is usually a good idea. 

Remember that dates will often go just the way you expect them to. Have a positive attitude toward first dates and you may decide that first dates are the best dates. Good luck! 


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